Breaking Ancestral Pattern Loops: Understanding the Cycles Passed Through Generations

Do you ever wonder how the same life events seem to be repeating in your family from your grandparents to parents and now to you? These are your ancestral patterns. We notice the repeated medical conditions, physical pain, characteristics and relationship dynamics, but other patterns including subconscious tendencies often go unnoticed. Not to say they are not evident, but our mind restricts us from looking beyond what is visible through our naked eyes. The mind doesn't always engage in the cognitive thinking part of the brain unless it becomes necessary, it accepts response from auto piloting instead of looking for a deeper meaning. Unless of course life events push in that direction, to relive from the misery due to this blueprint. 

The ancestral patterns are passed down from generation to generation. As DNA’s are carried over from both parents, each one of us carry a maternal and a paternal pattern. You may also observe a gap such as a father does not have the same traits as your grandfather, but you do. This has been scientifically explained by dominant and recessive genes that we carry and how generations skip traits. Saying that, the overall pattern remains within the family. 

Family tree that carries ancestral patterns from maternal and paternal side. It gets passed down through the lineage, sometimes even skipping generations.

Such patterns can form positive and negative loops. There are very rare positive patterns that are strengthen through hereditary example of that include spiritual knowledge. Often ancestral patterns reflect negative patterns i.e., life lessons, mastery that needs to be acquired through lived experiences. Religious belief, society conditioning and family traditions see these patterns as ancestral blessings; however, they often fail to differentiate between positive and the negative ancestral pattern loops. If not recognised through awareness, these cycle repeat in other aspects of life and can become a dominant life theme. It also continues to be passed down through the bloodline, keeping us bounded in the cycle of life and death. 

Life aspects through which ancestral patterns may show up.

So why are these patterns carried down through the lineage and why do we become the recipients? It is because it coincides with our personal life lesson and therefore provides us with an opportunity to learn them through a support system, i.e., the soul family. The life learnings of each family members are intertwined. A life theme is trying to complete the cycle through us; therefore, our life lessons reflect these ancestral patterns. The reflection is what we are meant to recognise and outgrow. We can, however, blend in with that reflection and carry that pattern to the next generation or we can consciously recognise it and break the pattern permanently. For example, individuals who lack authority in their present life but are meant to outgrow it, will have parents who are typically hands off parents and avoid taking responsibility. The individuals are therefore required to be self-sufficient, independent and take responsibility at an early age, ultimately end up acting as a parent to their own parents, shifting all responsibility and accountability to themselves. This eventually leads to resentment towards their parents in future. As this is ancestral pattern you would notice a similar situation with your own parents i.e., they had to take responsibility for their parents (your grandparents) at an early age. This implies avoidance of responsibility as a parent towards their child, it is being shifted from themselves to avoid their role, which translates into a life lesson of performing duties without being attached to the children.   

Negative ancestral pattern loop, example of parents who avoid fulfilling their role as parents, which results into parentification followed by resentment from their children. The trend continues generation after generations until awareness is reached by an individual and they make the attempt to consciously choose a different path.

This blueprint will continue to be inherited within descendants. The longer it stays within the lineage, the stronger the subconscious tendencies and more likely it is to recur, it almost becomes a norm, a family tradition. We see individuals who follow their lineage often consciously “if I could be independent at an early age so will be my kids”. This may not be an ancestral positive loop to be passed down, but a negative pattern loop, which needs to be broken.

Most of us share a special bond with our family members, but each one is part of our life because they carry ancestral life theme. They either complement or challenge our personal learnings but overall, they are intertwined and each one plays their roles in the journey. Some act as a trigger and some as a stabiliser. This is why there are some family members we get on and others that make us frustrated.

Role of each family member in life, they either act as a trigger or a stabiliser. Trigger often initiate our life theme whilst stabiliser support with life lesson.

Now, sometimes individuals within the family are born to be a disruptor. In simple language we may describe them as “rebels” and they usually go against the norm of the family patterns that has been followed for years. Such individuals are frowned upon in the family, but they are the disruptors whose mission is to make attempts to break these patterns. For example, taking our previous example, an individual may recognise a trend and consciously shifts responsibilities back to their parents. Alternatively, they stop shifting responsibility to their own children. By doing this they have tried to break the negative pattern loop. Though they will be labelled as selfish, disrespectful or irresponsible towards their parents. 

This becomes a pivotal point because most individuals may revert back due to guilt or from emotional manipulation and continue the negative cycle loop, whilst others through self-efforts continue to make attempts despite the challenges. It is through consistency that such blueprints are interrupted. It is often hard to break the loop due to emotions, attachment as well as the conditioning and expectations from the society on a role of a parent vs child. Additionally, there are strong identities formed around these relationships and transforming it especially when it is part of subconscious tendencies is very tough. 

It is important to realise that healing is our responsibility, and a challenge wouldn’t have been given to us if we were unable to withstand it.  The situation and subconscious tendencies are seen as fate, but they can be changed through conscious actions. If we can hurdle pass the obstacles, we can rewrite our own destiny and for our next generations to follow. 

The question that remains unanswered is by setting our self-free from this adverse pattern loop and it being carried to the next generations, is it also freeing our ancestors from a particular life lesson and healing the entire soul family?  Or do we as individual break away and join another support system for another life lesson?