Is desired to be loved by someone else stronger than self-love?

Once we fall in love and we believe we have met our other half, we desire to be loved by them, but we also desire to keep that love safe and will sometimes go to any lengths to make the relationship work. We often get blind sited by how much of ourselves is being compromised.

Is desired to be loved by someone else stronger than self-love?

We are willing to endure our happiness for external love because we feel it is essential for it to be sustained. In some cases, we even let go of our dreams to be with the partner. Over time, the personal sacrifices become part of our lives, and we eventually become adaptable to it. We volunteer to accommodate out of habit, and we start to treat it as an obligation all on the name of love. Over time, the list of personal sacrifice becomes longer and consequently our dissatisfaction with life in general. Dreams we once had for ourselves are forgotten and masked by changing priorities for love alliance to be maintained.

Recognising allows us to rectify this earlier, which, in result leads to healthy boundary setting, discussing expectations, and reaching grounds where a single partner is not carrying all the weight to keep the love sustained. There is a balance where both partners flourish with the support of each other.